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You are not your beliefs
Often the difficulty in changing something, is the identification of your personality with the belief system that he has built up and entertained over the years. It is not at all difficult to suggest a change on a subject where your personality has no beliefs at all, like changing the position of a chair in the room of your neighbor from left to right. It is likely to be more of an issue when this happens
in your own home, when it is about "your" chair, and that this move means that your position opposite the tv is less good than it was before. Now you are likely to find out what your personality wants to do in order to defend your interests, it may somewhat feel like giving up a piece of yourself, and defeated when you have to agree to concessions in some form.
Now when you allow yourself every now and then to become aware of a belief like this, your personality will rush to tell you that you are no longer taking care of your best interests anymore, as he is no longer allowed to defend them. A logical step in this process can be, to at least make the choice to no longer strengthen it by entertaining the thought and discuss it in your head. Like in
the example above you may find yourself grumping a little, or even say nothing at all, while you become aware of all the thoughts that come up in your head.
Now what this means is that you no longer appoint your personality as the one and only aspect of you that is in control of your reality. You now slow down, and look around for other options. And there is one: your inner Self. As other people do have an inner Self as well, and you no longer play the game of strengthening each others personality, you have freed them from a familiar reaction pattern
as well. And now whatever happens is inspired by your inner Self and may even have some surprising results.
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