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How people manifest their emotional traumas
and shocks depends on their style(s) of recapitulation. Recapitulate means
"to repeat in concise form."
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There are many kinds of recapitulations;
all are ways of creating situations that allow a person to continue to
deal with unresolved feelings, situations, energy, etc. The first six were
formulated by my teacher, William Emerson, Ph.D.; more details are available
in some publications currently available through his office. To help you
better understand the material on shock, enclosed below is a brief description
with examples of the most common styles of recapitulating. There are many
types of recapitulation, and each type has several variants; this is just
a quick overview of a few of the most common styles.Direct - Direct recapitulation
is directly recreating the dynamics of an earlier shock or trauma. A woman
with a strong and overbearing father, who chooses a strong and overbearing
husband, is directly recapitulating that experience. She's chosen to try
to gain mastery over her painful early experiences by repeating and dealing
with the same patterns over and over again.
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Avoidant - An avoidant recapitulator
creates events that are directly opposite the dynamics of the earlier experience.
So, a boy whose parents were obsessive about safety and cleanliness might
purposely become involved in activities which allowed him to take risks
and get dirty (rock climbing or rugby would combine both elements) - which
would allow him to totally avoid the dynamics of his childhood. Unfortunately,
avoidant recapitulators tend to transform a lot of their unresolved traumas
into physical problems.
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Identified - In identified recapitulation,
the person creates a situation where he/she can take on the role of the
traumatizing person. So, a child who grew up with parents who were critical
and demanding might become critical and demanding of others.
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Generative - Generative recapitulation
involves taking an "educational" or "social activist" approach - to help
others avoid the trauma you know so well. So, the person whose parents
didn’t observe appropriate boundaries might teach assertiveness classes
for teenage girls or women, or create parenting class with special emphasis
on respecting boundaries.
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Creative - A person who uses creative
repatterning recapitulation will develop ways to "master" the hurtful forces
of childhood. For example, a boy whose dad would play with him very roughly
and throw him through the air might become a stuntman or pilot - developing
the traumatizing experience into a sophisticated skill over which he had
control, and which could bring great satisfaction (either through money,
or pleasurable experiences, or both).
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Confrontive - Confrontive recapitulators
seek out and challenge circumstances, people, events that are identical
or similar to those of their childhood; this is similar to identified but
without "victimizing" people. A person who was neglected as a child might
become hypervigilant to notice and overly aggressive about confronting
parents who are in any way neglectful of their children.
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One additional style that I've identified
is called Adoptive or Preemptive. People who use this style
of recapitulation will "beat the other person to it" by voluntarily adopting
the behaviour that was forced on them. So people whose births were induced
and who felt forced to be early, will always be early. This prevents outside
circumstances from every "inducing" them again. Or people whose parents
were abusive, forcing them to be compliant and meek, will adopt a meek
and compliant manner all the time, to "head off" the need of others to
be abusive towards them. People who were deprived will need even less,
not letting other deprive them because they "don't need it anyway."
Different people use different styles of recapitulation
and most of us use a combination of styles. It is also possible to use
two or more styles of recapitulation for one trauma or shock. For instance,
it is possible that the woman with the overbearing father might avoidantly
recapitulate in her marriage by choosing a passive husband, use identification
recapitulation with co-workers, and take a generative approach by supporting
non-profit agencies who rescue children from abusive homes.
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Keep in mind that if people are recapitulating
their emotional wounds, regardless of how "productive" they might be, they
are still trapped by the energy of those early wounding experiences. Appropriate
treatment brings relief from chronic patterns and allows greater flexibility
in all areas of life.
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Copyright 1998-2005
Terry Larimore
All rights reserved
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Last updated April
9, 2005
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