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• If you want to move about easily in the world, and have success on any level in any field, you will usually find it easier if you enhance certain of those characteristics that you already have. You can think of this like learning to ride a bicycle - the more you do it and pay attention to what you are doing, the better at it you get and the easier it becomes. In fact, you probably enjoy it more because you spend less time concentrating on keeping your balance and more on what it feels like to have the wind in your hair, enjoying the ride.

• Enhancement means building upon what you already have, making it stronger, faster, until you are able to leap tall building in a single bound, if that is what you really want to do. Some examples of this could include increasing your comfort level in a crowd of people, improving your speaking voice, and improving your physical health through exercise. In all cases, you would undertake these efforts after you have fixed any underlying issues. Trying to become a better public speaker when you have an underlying fear that is not resolved will not work.
• Enhancement does not mean replacing an existing characteristic with a new one.
  

Doesn't "Enhancement" imply that I'm not good enough as I am?

Well, yes, it does. And no, it doesn't. It all depends on what approach you want to take. If you are totally happy with your existing characteristics, then you can stop reading here. No worries, mate!

If, on the other hand, you would like to be a little better (or a whole lot better) at something you do or have aspired to, then you'll be looking for ways to quickly and reliably achieve that goal. Our intent here is to recommend only those methods which have a high degree of success.

One of the best sources of information on bettering yourself is the site for Positive Psychology.

Will I have to make an effort to enhance myself?

In a word, yes. However, if you first fix what needs fixing, then the enhancing becomes much easier.

"I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only
in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major
component of mental wellness."

Abraham Maslow
1908-1970, Psychologist

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